29 July 2018

Driving in the Right Lane of Life

Several years ago, when I was still working on my Master's degree, I commuted every Wednesday from Ogden to Salt Lake City along Interstate 15. At a certain point just south of Bountiful, Highway 89 merges onto the freeway. As a general rule, I always stayed in the left lane throughout that stretch of freeway. I don't like dealing with merging traffic, and I don't like freeway driving in general. I stay as far away from the merge as possible.

However, during one of these commutes, as I passed the Beck Street exit and approached the merge, I had an urgent prompting to get into the right lane. The feeling was so strong and sudden that without thinking I immediately checked my blind spot, turned on my signal and moved to the right. Just as I passed the divider between my lane and the merging traffic, I saw a white pickup truck pulled off to the side of the road with a well-dressed man standing beside it.

I have made it my habit through the years to try and stop to help stranded motorists, so I pulled onto the shoulder, noticing to my relief that the problem was a flat tire, the only automotive problem I am qualified to address. I was sure that I had been led to help him, so as he approached my car to talk to me I prepared to respond affirmatively to his request for my help. But, as I rolled down my window and we began to speak, he said he had things under control.

Now, I knew that the Holy Ghost had told me to stop. I wanted to say "look, you prayed me here or God led me here to help you, so let's get on with it!" Eventually he consented to allowing me to help him change his flat tire and we approached the truck together.

Several notable things about his situation were soon apparent. First, he was dressed in a white shirt and tie, not the best outfit for car trouble. Second, he had not changed a flat tire before, or at least not in a long time or in that truck. He wasn't familiar with the location of the spare tire or how to remove it from the truck. He looked up the location of the jack and tire iron in his owner's manual, and I lay on the ground under the truck to obtain the spare. Third, he did not have a cell phone with him and had no way to call for help.

As we began to remove the lug nuts together, he revealed that he worked at Church Headquarters in the translation department. In fact, he even knew some of the Italian translators I had met on my mission, which was delightful to me. He was running late getting back to work.

We removed most of the lug nuts without particular difficulty, but the final nut seemed impossible to remove. First I tried, then he tried, then we tried together, but with no luck. The tire iron slipped off the nut when too much pressure was applied.

One of us had a flash of insight, and I retrieved my jack and tire iron from my car. In order to remove that last lug nut I had to raise my jack under his tire iron, and he pushed it toward the wheel while I jumped on the end. Together, we finally got the nut loosed. I lifted the new tire and we tightened it on. He was soon on his way back to Church headquarters, and I to school. I was filled with the comforting glow that only comes from fulfilling an assignment given by God.
  
Several lessons can be learned from this story. First, we need to stop focusing so much on getting where we are going and focus more on what opportunities are around us. If we are too absorbed in what is coming to us on our phones or through our earbuds, what is on television or what needs to be done at home or at work, we may miss the prompting to serve when it comes. We need to be looking out the windows as we drive through life. We need to be willing to slow down and shift into the right lane so we are available to help.

Second, we need to react quickly when the Holy Ghost gives us direction. If I had waited even a couple of seconds to follow my prompting it would have been too late. The truck appeared so suddenly that even if I had seen it I would not have been able to pull over in time without that bit of advance warning. Pay attention when a prompting seems urgent.

Third, we need to have the Holy Ghost with us. We have all heard these words of Winston Churchill:

“To each there comes in their lifetime a special moment when they are figuratively tapped on the shoulder and offered the chance to do a very special thing, unique to them and fitted to their talents. What a tragedy if that moment finds them unprepared or unqualified for that which could have been their finest hour.”

To those who follow Christ, these special moments come much more often than once in a lifetime. If there is anything preventing you from answering that call when it comes, decide to stop it now. Live worthy of the promises you and the Lord made to each other.

Fourth, there is no feeling quite like that of knowing that you have been an instrument in the Lord's hands to bless one of His children in need. We may speak blithely of virtue being its own reward, but there are truly blessings only known by those who heed the call to serve when given by the Holy Ghost to one who is prepared. Remember when we answer a call who it is that is doing the calling, and give credit to Him for the good that you are able to do knowing that the opportunity to act is his blessing to you.


My friends, we need to drive in the right lane of life. There are so many broken down lives at the side of life's road. I don't know much about the life of the man I helped that day, but I like to think his earnest prayers for someone - anyone - to help are what led the Lord to allow me to be that someone for him. All of us have people in our lives - a family member, a friend, a school or work acquaintance, or even a stranger - who are hoping or praying for deliverance from loneliness, from self-hatred, from busy lives and overwhelming circumstances, from physical and emotional trials. There is someone only you can reach, only you can help, only you can lift. Pray to see the opportunity to serve when it comes. You may be called on to do something significant that requires your resources of time or money. Or it may be something small - a text or a note, a sincere hug, or a detour on your way home.
  
I will share one more story. More than a decade ago we were living in an apartment in South Weber and I was working long hours as a nurse in Bountiful. We had a neighbor and friend who lived in a nearby unit with her husband and two small children. While we lived there her husband become seriously ill and after several months passed away unexpectedly in his sleep. This was, of course, a very difficult time for our neighbor and she was soon caught up in arrangements for her husband's funeral.

During this period I was returning home very early in the morning after an unexpectedly long shift at work. It was after 1 am as I neared the South Weber exit and, as I left the highway, I felt a strong prompting to go see this neighbor. I initially resisted this impression because of the hour, but resolved to go to her apartment.

To my surprise, the apartment lights were on. I knocked on the door and discovered my neighbor gathering photographs for the funeral. Her sister was there also, offering help and support. We exchanged pleasantries and she asked my opinion on some photos. At length I told her that I felt prompted to offer her a Priesthood blessing. She welcomed this suggestion and took a seat in her front room.

The Spirit was thick in the room as the Lord blessed her with knowledge of her husband's continued spiritual presence and love for her, and gave her counsel and comfort for the difficult time ahead. I know that blessing was what she needed right then. I don't know if anyone else would have been in a position to give it then, in the middle of the night. I can't express the gratitude I felt to my Heavenly Father for the privilege of sharing that experience and being able to convey His promises in that ordinance.
  
Our Heavenly Father hears the prayers of those in our lives who are suffering. Sometimes He answers those prayers through us. It is my prayer that each of us can hear and heed the Lord's call to bless and to serve the people around us. If the Holy Ghost has given you a suggestion on what this means for you, I invite you to make needed changes today.

[This is a lightly edited version of a talk I am giving in church later this morning.]